Cursing the husband does not deem him unlawful

Question 50: A slight clash took place between a wife and her husband. As a result, the wife got angry at her husband and started speaking ill of him and cursing him and his parents. The husband is inquiring about the ruling on this act. Does his wife become unlawful for him as a result of her act? We hope that you attend to this issue and answer us. May Allaah reward you the best for serving Islaam and Muslims. May Allaah safeguard you.

Answer: First, it is a major sin to curse a Muslim. It was authentically reported on the authority of Thaabit ibn Al-Dahhaak that the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said: A person is not bound to fulfill a vow about a thing which they do not possess” , “If somebody curses a believer, their sin will be as if they murdered him” , “If somebody commits suicide with anything, they will be tortured with that very thing on the Day of Resurrection” , “Whoever falsely swears by a religion other than Islaam will be as they profess” and “Whoever accuses a believer of Kufr (disbelief), it is as if they killed him.... read more here.

Wife cursing the husband and children

Question 49: I have a wife who gave birth to eight children. One of my daughters is used to go out without my permission. Once I beat her and her mother reproached her and cursed her and her father and forefathers. Six months later, the girl went out without taking my permission. I beat her again and her mother cursed my mother three times. I was greatly offended by this insult. It is worth mentioning that I helped my wife to memorize two Juzz’ (a 30th of the Qur’aan) as well as the text of Al-Usool Al-Thalaathah (The Three Fundamentals). Nevertheless, this has not deterred her from cursing me and my parents. Please give me your Fatwaa’ (legal opinion issued by a qualified Muslim scholar).

Answer: If the reality is as you mentioned, the curses the woman uttered signify disobedience to Allaah (Glorified and Exalted be He) and an offence against the daughter, her father, as well as her grandmother. The wife has to make Tawbah (repentance to Allaah) by regretting the sin, giving it up, and being determined not to commit it again. She should ask for the forgiveness of those whom she cursed. Allaah (Exalted be He) says... read more here.