Having a Duff beater at the wedding

Question 16: Tribesmen gather on many occasions most importantly during weddings. They hire what they call Al-Muzlif (a person who plays drums). They give him a sum of money that ranges from 3,000 to 5,000 Saudi Riyals provided that he should stay with them for the whole day. They argue that they make this ceremony at times other than that of prayer and do not distract people from worship. They say that it is an opportunity for the people of the tribe to gather and announce the marriage and so on. When one of our religious brothers advised them to substitute these ceremonies with useful religious lectures which will benefit everyone and bring up a good generation, they asked him to bring forth a Fatwaa’ from the Permanent Committee for Iftaa’ about this. We appreciate your advice, may Allaah reward you with the best.

Answer: When announcing marriage, it is permissible for men to gather and greet each other and socialize with them and to prepare a wedding banquet. With regards to women, it is permissible for them to play the Duff (a tambourine-like instrument without bells) to announce marriage. However, it is not permissible to bring Al-Muzlif that you mentioned. The money he gets for this is unlawful and it is not permissible for you to pay him this sum of money... read more here.

Groom walking in a procession of women

Question 15: What is the legal ruling on wedding parties in which the groom walks to his bride in a procession of women. After that the bride and groom sit on their bridal throne which is called Minasah where strange women can see him and he can see them in their adornment. Is it permissible to make this bridal throne? If it is a common habit that women go to wedding and participate in playing the Duff (a tambourine-like instrument without bells) to announce marriage, how should the men who have a sense of honor allow their wives to look at the groom who is Ajnabee (men lawful for the woman to marry) to them when he goes to sit on the bridal throne, especially that according to the customs, he has to sit there? What should the Ajnabee (woman lawful for the man to marry) woman do at that moment?I hope your Eminence will explain the ruling on this and guide us to do what is right through a written Fatwaa’ to be read by everyone so they may know what is right with regards to their religion, morals and customs.

Answer: It is not permissible to celebrate weddings by dancing and singing in the Masjid. Moreover, you are not permitted tomix between reciting the Qur’aan and these songs. Beating tambourines is permissible only for women in places other than the Masjid in order to announce this marriage among women... read more here.

Holding weddings at the Masjid

Question 14: Is it permissible to organize wedding ceremonies in the Masjid (mosque) by reciting some songs and some parts of the Qur’aan? What is the ruling on beating tambourines for this purpose?

Answer: It is not permissible to celebrate weddings by dancing and singing in the Masjid. Moreover, you are not permitted tomix between reciting the Qur’aan and these songs. Beating tambourines is permissible only for women in places other than the Masjid in order to announce this marriage among women... read more here.

Women playing and dancing at weddings

Question 13: Is it permissible for women to play and dance during weddings in a place far away from the men’s area? Likewise, is it permissible for men to play during weddings in a place far away from the women’s area?

Answer: The Prophet (peace be upon him) prescribed that marriage has to be publicized to distinguish it from Zinaa (sexual intercourse outside marriage). However, such publicizing is to take place through permissible procedures such as having witnesses to the contract of marriage and women playing the tambourine and singing decent songs that do not involve Fitnah (temptation) or intermixing between men and women... read more here.

Announcing marriage even if only in the presence of witnesses only

Question 12: I seek your Fatwaa’ (legal opinion issued by a qualified Muslim scholar) regarding the ruling on accepting to conclude a marriage contract between a suitor and a Waliy (a legally accountable person acting for a woman regarding marriage) in the presence of four witnesses. This marriage is announced to some people only. Would this announcement suffice? Is the marriage contract valid?

Answer: If the reality is as you have mentioned, the contract is valid, and the announcement will suffice even if the witnesses are only two people... read more here.

Removing the wife’s hymen with the finger

Question 11: What is the ruling on beating drums and uttering cries of joy at weddings and on breaking the wife’s hymen with the finger?

Answer: It is commendable to announce the marriage and cries of joy take the same ruling as singing. However, it is prohibited in Sharee`ah (Islaamic law) to break the wife’s hymen with a finger and it is a despicable custom that contradicts the guidance of the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) which indicates that the only manner of breaking the hymen is through sexual intercourse... read more here.

Lack of evidence supporting the permissibility of men dancing

Question 10: Is it permissible for a Muslim to dance and beat the Duff (a tambourine-like instrument without bells)?

Answer: There is no harm in women dancing and beating the Duff at weddings in the absence of men. However, we do not know of any evidence supporting the permissibility of men dancing, whether accompanied by the Duff or not... read more here.

Is it permissible for Muslim men to beat the Duff ?

Question 9: Is it permissible for Muslim men to beat the Duff (a tambourine-like instrument without bells)?

Answer: Announcing marriage is a Sunnah (a commendable act), as the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Announce the contract of marriage.” (Related by Ahmad and is regarded as Saheeh [authentic] by Ibn Hibbaan and Al-Haakim) One of the means of announcing marriage for women – not men – is to beat the Duff, as it was reported that women of the first generation did so... read more here.

Many people attending marriage contract

Question 8: Is there any harm in thirty or fifty people gathering for the conclusion of a marriage contract?

Answer: There is no harm if the said number or more or less attends, as this is a means of announcing the marriage, which is required by Sharee`ah (Islaamic law). It is confirmed that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, Announce the contract of marriage. read more here.

Having pop singer in the wedding

Question 7: Is it permissible to bring a pop singer to entertain my family and the people of the village at my wedding? What is the ruling if the singer does not drink prohibited beverages, and my father insists on bringing him?

Answer: It is not permissible for a Muslim to bring a pop singer, man or woman, to entertain his family or the people of the village at his wedding... read more here.

What is the ruling on beating the Duff ?

Question 6: What is the ruling on beating the Duff (a tambourine-like instrument without bells)?

Answer: Al-Tirmidee, Al-Nasaa’ee and others reported on the authority of Muhammad ibn Haatib that Allaah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: The difference between what is legal and illegal (in marriage) is beating the tambourine and announcing the marriage in a loud voice. read more here.

Weddings, birthday parties, and other celebrations

Question 5: What is the opinion on celebrations held by Muslims in Trinidad on the occasions of marriage and moving to a new house, in addition to individual birthdays and other joyful occasions, during which they recite the Noble Qur’aan and songs of praise about the noble Messenger (peace be upon him), after which, they stand up as a way of revering and respecting the noble Messenger (peace be upon him)?

Answer: First, the Prophet (peace be upon him) has prohibited secret marriages. He (peace be upon him) has ordained for us to announce and celebrate marriage and the moving of the bride to her husband’s house. Therefore it is permissible to do this unless the celebration includes dissolute singing, mingling between men and women, or the like of prohibited things… read more here.

Accepting invitations of waleemah that involve Munkar when change unavoidable?

Question 4: What is the ruling of Islam regarding a brother whose sister is about to hold a wedding in which musical instruments will be used and other matters contradicting the teachings of Allaah and His Messenger. Should her brother attend the wedding or not? If he can save himself from the Fitnah (temptation) by staying in his room, is it permissible for him to remain at home? What should he do if his father asks him to do some things related to the wedding?

Answer: If this young man can assist in reducing the Fitnah in his sister’s wedding, there is nothing wrong with his presence for the benefit of resisting evil. However, if he finds this difficult, he should not attend the wedding so as not to cooperate in or courage the evil. There is nothing wrong with his bringing some things that his father may require as long as they are permissible, not involving any disobedience to Allaah… read more here.

Is it lawful to accept invitations that involve Munkar when change unavoidable?

Question 3: In Morocco, some weddings are held where people are invited to attend, and it is an obligation to attend according to the Hadeeth of the Prophet (peace be upon him). However, many Bidd`ahs (innovations in religion) and prohibitions take place. Is it obligatory to attend such weddings?

Answer: If the person who is invited to a wedding is able to prevent the sins that take place, he should attend for this purpose. Otherwise, he should not accept the invitation… read more here.

Giving a Khutbah in a wedding ceremony

Question 2: Sometimes, when people celebrate weddings, whether in wedding halls, hotels, or elsewhere, the family of one of the spouses ask a seeker of religious knowledge to deliver a Khutbah (sermon) as a reminder and advice to the attendants. The Khutbah is often about marriage-related issues, such as exaggeration in Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom), extravagance in Waleemah (wedding dinner), and prohibited acts committed in wedding ceremonies, such as Tasweer (photography), free intermixing (of men and women), singing, and the like. Some people object to this on the pretext that nothing was related in this regard. What is the ruling on this matter? May Allaah reward you best.

Answer: There is no harm in delivering a useful Khutbah to the attendants in a wedding ceremony, in order to enjoin good and forbid evil… read more here.

Accepting the invitation in places which involve Munkar such as public party, public park

Question 1: Is it permissible to join a public party in a public park? It is worth mentioning that we are invited to such a party and that one girl or more, Muslim or non-Muslim, will join it. Since the park is big and has very vast spaces that we can sit in, is a male Muslim considered a sinner if he accepts the invitation and sits alone or with some of his male friends far from the place where the ladies sit. It is worth mentioning that all, males and females, will be in one party seeing each other. Moreover, it is most probable that one woman or more may, due to curiosity or any other reason, intervene and sit with men who are far from the place where ladies sit.

Answer: It is impermissible for you to accept the concerned invitation even if you are going to sit in a far place. This is because such a party is a means for temptation, it includes Munkar (that which is unacceptable or disapproved of by Islaamic law and Muslims of sound intellect), and accepting its invitation is tantamount to participating in Munkar, not trying to change it, and being content with the involved sins committed by others… read more here.