Visiting graves to be blessed by them or to ensure a happy marriage

Question 325: It is customary when someone marries to go to the domed grave of the righteous man Sidi Muhammad Al-Salih. The bridegroom writes his name and his family name on the wall of the dome. He then lights some candles. When I asked some elders about this custom, they said that this pious Waliy recommended that the newlyweds visit him.They told us that he died on his wedding night. People, thus considered his request obligatory and claim that anyone who does not go to the grave and write his name with henna, and lights some candles will become impotent or insane on his wedding night. We heard that when some newly married people disapproved of this habit and did not abide by it, they were afflicted with impotence, insanity, etc. This Waliy is buried alone in a private place, not in the cemetery. Is it permissible to follow them in this habit despite our knowledge that all good and evil are in the Hand of Allaah?

What is the meaning of what happened to the newly married people who refused to visit the grave on their wedding night and were exposed to afflictions? They sought several medical treatments but all were in vain. They did not recover until they went to that Waliy, wrote their names with henna, and lit some candles.

Is someone who follows this practice considered a Mushrik (associating others with Allaah in His Divinity or worship)? How do we treat people who do this out of fear that they will be inflicted with adversity? Please, advise! May Allaah show mercy to and bless you, and benefit Muslims from your knowledge.

Answer: It is not permissible to visit the graves of the dead in order to be blessed by them or to ensure a happy marriage, or anything else. This is an act of disbelief because these needs are only asked from Allaah. So you should abandon this evil practice and warn people against it. As for the success achieved when they follow this custom and the problems they face when they do not, this does not validate this practice or its permissibility because this is a trial and test. Actions must be taken from the Sharee`ah, not from customs... read more here.

Visiting the graves and invoking them believing that they bring benefit and cause harm

Question 74: There is a grave in our village which is said to belong to one of the righteous people. A house was built over this grave and there are two people appointed to take care of it. These people inherited this mission from their fathers. They tell people: “This night, the dweller of this grave said so and so and asked for so and so. They have attracted people’s hearts that live beside the grave. People believe everything that is said by these two people. Therefore, people make Tawaaf (circumambulation) around the grave, sacrifice animals for its sake, etc. What is the ruling on a person who thinks that this Walee (pious person) brings benefit or causes harm? Is it permissible to vow or sacrifice for the sake of this Walee? What should someone do if they know that these things contradict Sharee`ah (Islaamic law) especially if they live with these people?

Answer: The guidance of the Messenger (peace be upon him) in visiting the graves is clear in Saheeh Hadeeths (Hadeeths that have been transmitted by people known for their uprightness and exactitude; free from eccentricity and blemish). Muslim reported in his Saheeh Book of Hadeeth that Buraydah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) used to teach them when they went out to the graveyard to say: ‘Peace be upon the inhabitants of the graves from among believers and Muslims. Verily we will, In Shaa’-Allaah (if Allaah wills), join you. I beg of Allaah peace for us and for you. You have preceded us.We ask Allaah to give us and you good.’ Imaam Ahmad and Al-Tirmidee related, and the latter considered it to be Hasan (a Hadeeth whose chain of narration contains a narrator with weak exactitude, but is free from eccentricity or blemish), on the authority of Ibn `Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with them both) that he said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) passed by the graves at Al-Madeenah. He turned his face towards them and said: ‘May you be granted safety, O dwellers of the graves. May Allaah forgive us and you. You have preceded us, and we are to follow.’ The four Rightly-Guided Caliphs followed the example of the Prophet (peace be upon him), as did those who followed them in righteousness. If those who visit graves go there to make Du`aa’ (supplication) to Allaah believing that this may be more beneficial in answering their Du`aa’ and want to use them as a means or intercessors with Allaah, then these deeds are prohibited as they are not ordained by Sharee`ah. Means have the same ruling as ends. Allaah (Exalted be He) says… read more here.

Visiting graves on certain days of the year (first and last day of Rajab)

Question 1: Some people are accustomed to visiting graves on the first and last day of Rajab. Is this permissible?

Answer: It is not permissible to single out a certain day of the year like Friday or the first day of Rajab or any other day for visiting graves as there is no evidence to support this… read more here.