Question 45: I got married two years ago and I am still a student. I have been living with my family since then. I gave birth to a baby. However, I sometimes feel that I hate my husband and I keep telling myself that I should not and will not think this way, but I always return to the same idea, then regret afterwards, but to no avail. My question is: What should I do with my husband? It should be mentioned that he does not annoy me in any way, except if I am the one who makes the first move.
Answer: You should fear Allaah (Exalted be He), strive against yourself, and be a good companion to your husband. You should also guard his honor, money, and children, and fulfill all his duties. In order to do this, you should first seek Allaah’s Support, and then be patient, observe Salaah (Prayer), recite the Qur’aan, and say Adkaar (invocations and remembrances said at certain times on a regular basis) that are authentically reported from the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him)... read more here.
Question 32: I wish to know about the following:
1- My husband follows the Qur’aan and the Sunnah (whatever is reported from the Prophet) and urges me and others to adhere to the Sunnah, but I do not listen to him or follow him.
2- What is the ruling on going out in his absence and without his permission to visit my family and relatives?
3- Were I to obey what my husband says, women would laugh at me and accuse me of fearing him.
Answer: Firstly, if your husband is as you have described, it is obligatory upon whoever hears him to respond to him as long as what he preaches is in accordance with the Book of Allaah (Exalted be He) and Sunnah of His Messenger (peace be upon him). You should be the first to answer his call, obey him with regard to Ma`roof (that which is judged as good, beneficial, or fitting by Islaamic law and Muslims of sound intellect) and thank Allaah for endowing you with such a husband who encourages you to do good. May Allaah guide you to what pleases Him... read more here.