Question 1: I know that Talqeen to the dead (standing by their grave in an attempt to remind them to say: “Laa ilaaha illaa Allaah”) is not permissible. However, a great number of scholars in our country permit doing so. They cite al-Shaafi`ee Madh-hab (School of Jurisprudence) as evidence. I referred to the book “Nayl al-Awtaar” by al-Shawkaanee who remained silent concerning this matter without any comment except his saying that this saying was regarded as permissible by some of the Shaafi`eeyah. What is the solution for this case?
Answer: The soundest opinion according to scholars is that Talqeen to the dead is not permissible. Moreover, it is a Bid’ah (innovation in religion) and every Bid’ah is a misguidance. What is reported by Al-Tabaraanee in his book called “al-Kabeer” on the authority of Sa`eed ibn ‘Abdullaah al-Awdee from Abu Umaamah (may Allaah be pleased with him) concerning Talqeen to the dead after burying him is also mentioned by al-Haythamee… read more here.