Small Mahr like a ring

Question 14: Is it permissible to marry with a small amount of Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom), such as a ring?

Answer: There is no minimum or maximum limit for Mahr. It might be a ring, its value or more. However, it is impermissible to exaggerate in the value of Mahr, as it leads to many evils... read more here.

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The Mahr limits

Question 13: Is there a certain limit for a woman’s Sadaq (Mahr, dowry to a bride from the groom)? What is meant by the phrase “the easiest in their dowry” mentioned in the honorable Hadeeth?

Answer: A Woman’s Sadaq has no definite limit. Whatever is permissible to own, whether a large or small amount, is permissible to be given as a Sadaq for women. As for the Hadeeth narrated by Aboo Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) stated: The most blessed marriage is the easiest in costs and dowry.(Related by Ahmad) It means that paying the dowry should be made easy... read more here.

Paying Mahr proper to that paid to a girl of the same social status

Question 12: I married one of my daughters to a man whom I did not ask to pay a Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom). One year after their marriage my son-in-law gave me a Toyota (car) though I did not ask him to do so. What is the ruling on this?

Answer: It is permissible for you to take the car from your son-in-law. If he gave it to you as a Mahr, it should go to your daughter. However, if he gave it to you as a gift; you may take it for yourself but your son-in-law has to pay a proper Mahr to your daughter if he did not do so at the time of the conclusion of the marriage contract... read more here.

Mahr as working for the father-in-law for a certain period

Question 11: I am poor and cannot afford marriage. A man offered to give me his daughter in marriage provided that I work for him for a one month period, and this shall be her Mahr (dowry to a bride from the groom).The man’s daughter agreed to this offer, is this permissible in Islaam? Could this be a valid marriage?

Answer: If the matter is as mentioned, it is permissible to work for this man for one month and consider this the Mahr for his daughter; and the marriage would be valid... read more here.

Man’s intention not to pay off Mahr

Question 10: Please be advised that I am a young man about to graduate. I proposed to a girl six months ago, and her father agreed to our marriage. I agreed with them to pay her 100,000 Rupees as Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom). Our customs are that the mentioned sum of money is written in the contract, but only half of it is paid in the form of jewels and clothes. Due to myfinancial situation, I do not have this sum of money, so I cannot pay it. I have read in some books that if a man marries while owing part of the Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom), while he does not intend to pay it, he will be resurrected on the Day of Judgment as an adulterer. Please advise concerning the following:

First: Is this Hadeeth Saheeh (authentic)?

Second: If it is Saheeh, what should I do? Should I break the engagement or continue? Please note, that the marriage has not yet taken place.

Third: Given the situation, does the previously-mentioned Hadeeth apply to my case? Please advise. May Allaah guide you.

Answer: First, it was mentioned by Al-Mundhiree in his book entitled “Al-Targheeb wa al-Tarheeb”, on the authority of Suhayb Al-Khayr (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he said, “The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said... read more here.

Registering everything the husband offers in a list

Question 8: What is ruling on the so called Qa’ymah (list) of all house items, whether bought by the groom or anyone else that is attached to the marriage contract? It is noteworthy that such a Qa’ymah is claimed to be among the public interests especially in this age with the spread of fraud, and that it is a similar document to the marriage contract itself.

Answer: If the matter is exactly as what is mentioned in the question, there is no impediment to include such a Qa’ymah with the document of the contract of marriage. Both the bride and the groom may sign it to define for sure what the husband has bought in case that a dispute between the two sides arises and a Khul` (divorce at the request of the wife in return for compensation to the husband) is to take place... read more here.

Husband’s in-laws giving him money

Question 7: According to the traditions of Muslims in India, when contracting a marriage the bride’s family presents a large sum of money to the bridegroom’s family. This causes a lot of problems; for example young men find it difficult to choosethe right wife, as the families of brides who may not seem suitable enticingly pay large amounts of money. Besides, poor Muslim families find themselves obliged to borrow money in order to marry their mature daughters. This hinders the Muslims’ progress in this state. In the state of Kerala, there are many Islaamic societies, but none of them care about this matter. I hope you will clarify this question in the light of the Islaamic creed. If this tradition violates the Sharee`ah, I hope you will point this out.

Answer: When contracting a marriage the woman should receive Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) that is payable by the husband on the spot or deferred, whether it is little or much. Allaah (Exalted be He) says... read more here.

Stipulating `Umrah as Mahr

Question 6: I wish that Allaah blesses me with performing `Umrah (lesser pilgrimage) or Hajj. Since the financial conditions of my family do not allow me to perform Hajj or `Umrah, I had an idea; namely to stipulate for the man who may propose to me and whom I hope will be a righteous man to make my Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) enough money to allow me to perform `Umrah if possible. Is this condition against any of the rulings of the Sharee`ah pertinent to marriage?

Answer: There is no harm if you stipulate for the potential husband to make your Mahr enough for your performance of `Umrah. It is authentically reported in the Two Saheeh (authentic) Books of Hadeeth (i.e. Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim) that... read more here.

Husband offering the Mus-haf as Mahr

Question 5: Is it permissible for a person to give a copy of the Qur’aan as a Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) to his wife? What should be done if he divorces her in this case?

Answer: First, It is permissible for the person to make teaching the Qur’aan to a woman her Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) at the time of concluding the marriage contract if he does not have money. It is authentically reported in the Two Saheeh (authentic) Books of Hadeeth (i.e. Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim) on the authority of Sahl ibn Sa`d (may Allaah be pleased with him) that... read more here.

Obligation of husband giving Mahr

Question 4: A man here in Kashmir has to spend huge sums of money on his daughter’s wedding; he has to give gifts, home appliances, and a car or a refrigerator, for example, to the groom, based on what they ask for. These have become almost a custom. The father also has to willingly give him jewelry and expensive clothes sometimes, and bear the costs of the wedding, which can amount to hundreds of thousands of Rupees. This man may also face problems if he does not offer these requirements, as engagement or marriage break-up.

The question is: Can the money spent on a daughter’s wedding be deducted from her share in the inheritance, and is it lawful for a woman’s share in inheritance to be relinquished?

Answer: In marriage contract, it is obligatory for the Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) to be paid by the husband, as Allaah addresses husbands saying: And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allaah has made it lawful).... read more here.

Offering Mahr in the form of commodity

Question 3: A man married a woman promising to give her a golden anklet, two camels, and two rings as Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom). Then his wife died. He says that the value of these golden items has changed. Should he pay their value according to their price at the time of concluding the contract or according to today’s price?

Answer: If the reality is as mentioned, that he promised to give his wife golden anklets, two camels and two rings, he must fulfill the promise regardless of the value of these items before or after the time of fulfillment. He has to hand them to the rightful inheritors of his wife or to their authorized agents. If they agreed upon estimating the value justly according to today’s price, there is no harm in that... read more here.

Marrying a woman without paying Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom)

Question 2: A man who worships Allaah alone gave his beautiful daughters in marriage without receiving a Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom). He did not even receive clothing, money or anything else. Is this marriage valid?

Answer: Mahr is a prerequisite for marriage. The texts of Qur’aan and Sunnah and Ijmaa` (consensus of scholars) indicate that it is required and obligatory. Allaah (Exalted be He) says: And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart which means: give them their dowry out of free will according to the obligation prescribed on you by marrying them... read more here.

Fixing Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom)

Question 1: What is the maximum and the minimum limits of Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom)? Is it Haraam (prohibited) to increase it?

Answer: There is no evidence in the Qur’aan or the Sunnah on the recommended amount of Mahr. Some of the evidence mentioned in the Qur’aan allow the payment of a large Mahr, while others are general and include both large and small. The first type includes Allaah’s saying (Exalted be He)... read more here.

Ruling on advance or deferred payment of Mahr

Question 4: Is it Waajib (obligatory) that a woman’s Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) be paid once it is defined, at the time of concluding the contract of marriage? Or is it sufficient to define it, then the payment may be deferred to a later time after the consummation of marriage? May Allaah reward you with the best.

Answer: It depends on the agreement between the husband and the wife or her Waliy (a legally accountable person acting for a woman regarding marriage). Whatever they agree on, whether advancing or deferring the payment of Mahr, is permissible for the matter is flexible; all praise be to Allaah Alone... read more here.

Mahr is the right of the bride

Question 3: If a person proposes to marry my daughter and gives her a Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) of about fifty thousand Riyals, shall I give it back to him and keep only twothousand of it as some people do? Shall I do this while it is my daughter’s right? If I help her in buying some of her trousseau, will that be regarded as helping my sons? Please advise us concerning what we should do with these affairs as necessity arises. Al-salaamu `alaykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh (May Allaah’s Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you)

Answer: You should not give back any part of her Mahr unless she permits you to do so if she was of legal age as it is her right. It is permissible for you to help her in some marriage affairs if necessity arises as you helped her brothers... read more here.

Permissibility of specifying a certain amount of Mahr by a tribe

Question 2: Our tribe agreed that Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) is to be twenty five thousand riyals only. If the bride’s brother or father receives more than this, the tribe takes the extra amount of money and put sit in a tribe box which is allocated for helping the Miskeen (needy) people. Is it then permissible to take this extra sum as a sort of punishing whomever violates the convention set by the tribe?

Answer: If the concerned tribe agreed on a certain Mahr for the interest of the young boys and girls amongst them, no one is allowed to violate such an agreement. This is because such violation is to threaten the general interest of the people of the town or the tribe... read more here.

Reprehensibility of exaggeration in Mahr

Question 1: Is it permissible for women’s families to exaggerate in their dowries? Is it allowed for them to eat it all up? What is the evidence?

Answer: It is reprehensible to exaggerate in women’s dowries and one should make it easy but the Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) is not prohibited for a woman to take even if it was overstated as Allaah (Exalted be He) says: …and you have given one of them a Qintaar (of gold i.e. a great amount as Mahr) Qintaar… read more here.

Celebrating wedding parties in hotels and halls is extravagance

Question2: Are the parties held in hotels that cost a lot of money considered a form of extravagance? If so, please advise us about this.

Answer: Parties that are held in hotels include many mistakes. First, they usually involve unnecessary extravagance. Second, they lead to overbearingness in setting banquets, in addition to the attendance of unnecessary people. Third, this leads to outrageous free intermixing (of men and women), whether the hotel employees or others... read more here.

Village’s tradition of charging a sum of money if the husband is not an inhabitant is condemned

Question 1: Your Eminence Shaykh `Abdul-`Azeez ibn `Abdullaah ibn Baaz (may Allaah protect him)
Al-Salaamu `alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh (May Allaah’s Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!)

We have an old tradition in some villages in the Southern Region. Anyone who marries his daughter or any one of his relatives to a man who is not from his village is obliged to pay two thousand Riyals which is called Maksar to his villagers to attend the Waleemah (wedding dinner) served in the husband’s village. If he refuses to pay the money, none of the villagers, males and females, goes with him or accepts his invitation to Waleemah. Anyone who goes with him will be fined and regarded as disobedient to the villagers.

It should be noted that this sum of money may be taken from the wife’s Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) or from the property of the bride’s father. He pays it unwillingly only for the villagers to accompany him to the groom’s village. Please advise! May Allaah reward you with the best!

Answer: Wa `alaykum al-salaamu wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh (May Allaah’s Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you too). To proceed:

This tradition is Munkar (that which is unacceptable or disapproved of by Islaamic law and Muslims of sound intellect) and unjust… read more here.