A psychologically ill wife who curses a lot

Question 56: I have a wife who gave birth to four children; the eldest is six years old and the youngest is a baby, and now she is pregnant. She is inflicted with a nerve illness and foolishness and has become rude to the extent that she curses me, my parents, and my children. I commanded her to observe Sawm (Fast) for three days, pay Sadaqah (voluntary charity), and make Tawbah (repentance to Allaah). I also abandoned her in bed, but she has not stopped this bad habit. Whenever she gets sick, she curses. She does not feel that she is committing a sin regardless of the advice and guidance I offer her. I suffer a lot with her and endure her for the sake of my children. However, I am no longer able to bear her. Could you kindly advise me. What should I do with her in this adversity?

Answer: We advise you and your children to treat her kindly; do not be bad with her or irritate her, advise her wisely with good manners, meet her bad sayings with good ones, explain to her that cursing is one of the major sins and that its evil will return against the curser if the cursed does not deserve it. May Allaah guide her to give up cursing and other misdeeds... read more here.

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What is the consequence of spouses cursing one another?

Question 55: What is the consequence if a man curses his wife or a wife curses her husband? Do they become forbidden to each other in regard to marriage?

Answer: Neither of them will become forbidden to the other as a result of cursing and it does not result in divorce. However, his cursing her or her cursing him is a major sin and it is obligatory to make Tawbah (repentance to Allaah) and ask Allaah for forgiveness for what they have done. They also have to ask each other’s forgiveness for cursing... read more here.

Cursing the Deen and ridiculing anything related to the Qur’aan and the Sunnah

Question 53: Regarding the issue of cursing the religion is the person who does so judged immediately to be a Kaafir (disbeliever)? Is there any distinction regarding cursing religion as religion? Does such a distinction exist when women and children curse the religion?

2- The issue of a person being excused due to ignorance, for ridiculing the beard, the Niqaab (face veil), the Qamees (long shirt), or Muslims; also the issue of cursing the religion, is ignorance accepted as an excuse or not?

3- The issue of being excused due to ignorance in regard to offering `Ibaadah (worship) to graves or Taaghoot (false gods), can people who do so be excused due to their ignorance of them?

Please enlighten us with the knowledge that Allaah has bestowed upon you on these issues and also on the issue of fighting religious activity, will a person employed for that purpose be excused due to their ignorance or not?

4- The issue of establishing proof against a Muslim who offers sacrifices to anyone other than Allaah, or makes Du`aa to anyone other than Allaah, or supports Taaghoot, can an ordinary Muslim who is well-informed about such matters establish it? Are there other conditions for establishing proof?

Answer: 1- To call people to Allaah with wisdom, fair preaching, arguing in a mild way is an obligation enjoined by Sharee’ah (Islaamic law). Allaah (Glorified be He) says: Invite (mankind, O Muhammad صلى الله عليه و سلم) to the Way of your Lord (i.e. Islaam) with wisdom (i.e. with the Divine Revelation and the Qur’aan) and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is better. Truly, your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His Path, and He is the Best Aware of those who are guided.

2- The Daa’ee (caller to Islaam) must be well-informed about what they should command and forbid, for they may be keen on good and have the desire and love of benefiting people, yet they are ignorant, thus they make that which is lawful unlawful and that which is unlawful lawful, and think that they are rightly-guided… read more here.