Question 238: What are the best greetings to be given when standing in front of the Prophet’s grave? I mean, is it better to say: “Peace and blessings be upon you, O Messenger of Allaah,” or to say in the form of a request: “O Allaah! Send peace and blessings upon Muhammad and upon the family of Muhammad”? Does the Prophet (peace be upon him) look at those who are greeting him by his grave? Did the Prophet’s hand come out of his grave to return the greeting of one of the great Sahaabah (Companions) or Awliyaa’ (pious people)?
Answer: (a) As far as we know, no specific wording has been authentically reported from the Prophet (peace be upon him) to be used when greeting him by his grave. It is, therefore, permissible to say:”Peace and blessings be upon you, O Messenger of Allaah,” as this is in the form of a request and it is established. It is also permissible to greet him using Al-Salaah Al-Ibraaheemiyyah (the second part of Tashahhud), and say: “O Allaah! Send peace and blessings upon Muhammad…” However, it is better to greet him using the same form of greeting as is used when visiting other graves. This is because Ibn `Umar (may Allaah be pleased with them) used to say, when visiting the grave of the Prophet (peace be upon him): “Peace be upon you, O Messenger of Allaah; peace be upon you, O ‘Aboo Bakr, and peace be upon you father,” then he would leave... read more here.