Informing the suitor about the woman’s psychological problems

Question 11: I have two sisters, one of whom suffered from a psychological illness, but she has recovered now, praise be to Allaah. However, she cannot stop taking medicine; she is going to take them for the rest of her life. My second sister suffers from rheumatism, and she takes an injection every month as advised by the doctors to control the disease, until she reaches the age of thirty-five. If a man proposes to either of them, should we tell him the truth about their illnesses? If we do not, are we considered sinful? Is this considered treachery that renders the contract nullified? Please advise. May Allaah guide you.

Answer: A suitor must be informed of the illnesses that the bride suffers from if he does not know, so that he can make his decision wisely. This is according to the saying of the Prophet (peace be upon him), A person who deceives us is not one of us (not a true Muslim).… read more here.

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Informing a suitor about the woman’s womb disease

Question 10: If a young woman has a womb problem, or problems in menstruation that necessitate medical treatment, something that might delay pregnancy, should her fiance be told about that?

Answer: If this problem is a contingent problem that can happen to other women but clears away, there is no need to tell him about it. Whereas, if this problem is not a contingent problem, rather an effective one that continues to persist during the engagement period, thereof, her guardian should tell her fiancé about it… read more here.

Marriage of an impotent man

Question 9: I want to marry to be able to perfect my faith but I feel I am unable to have sexual intercourse properly; what is your advice?

Answer: We advise you to marry so that Allaah might help you do it. If you manage to do it after marriage, it will be alright. Otherwise, you will have to divorce your wife unless she approves of living with you as such. However, if you know that you are totally impotent, you have to tell your fiancée about it, which if she accepts will be alright. Otherwise, you are not allowed to deceive her… read more here.

A man hiding his sterility from his wife

Question 8: I am a sterile person and have no children. My wife however does not know about it as I told the physician not to tell her for fear that she would abandon me. Have I committed a sin for not telling her about my being sterile before marriage?

Answer: You have to repent to Allaah and ask His forgiveness regarding the sin you committed by not telling her about the sterility you know you have. In fact, it is considered as cheating her. However, you may beg her pardon and soothe her so that she might accept to live with you… read more here.

Marrying a sterile woman

Question 7: Is it permissible for me to marry a sterile woman as I do not want to have offspring even when I am wealthy? Please, answer me while taking it seriously. I hope that you will always be in the right and wise position.

Answer: The Islaamic religion encouraged and exhorted marriage and having many children so as to increase the Ummah in number and protect the survival of the human species.Moreover, having righteous offspring indicates continuance of a Muslim’s good deeds after death. To this effect, the prophet (peace be upon him) said: Marry women who are very prolific and loving, for I shall outnumber the people by you on the Day of Resurrection.… read more here.

Is it permissible for a sterile man to marry?

Question 6: According to the ruling of Islaam, what should a man do if, before marriage, he finds out through medical examination and tests that he is barren?

Answer: First, he should marry as long as he is capable of affording dowry and marriage costs and is sexually potent. He should do so to act upon Sunnah, guard himself against adultery, cooperate with others in life matters, establish links with his potential in-laws, and the likes of such advantages of marriage… read more here.

Six months as the least duration for pregnancy

Question 5: I am an Indian Muslim. I married an Indian girl who was a Hindu. As I learned a lot from the teachings and debates of the remarkable scholar Sheikh Ahmad Deedat about methods of Da`wah, so I called her to Islaam and she accepted. I married her fifteen days after her embracing Islaam. I knew that she was thrown out from her family’s house before I married her. She told me that her family did that because of her conversion. I married her in 25/3/1989, and I discovered that she is not a virgin. She argued that this happen during her playing sports, especially horseback riding. On my part, I forgave all that has happened in her past. The pregnancy tests showed that she is going to give birth on 4/10/1989, a matter that aroused suspicions among my family due to the unexpected time of giving birth. They treated her so badly, especially my step mother. They even deprived her from eating with them and then she was thrown out of the house. I took her to live in a room that is 1000 km away from our district. She gave birth on 17/10/1989 i.e. after six months and half or nine weeks from her pregnancy. My family refused to admit this child and his mother regardless of any possible excuses or reasons. She says that the baby is mine. I took her to six Hindu doctors including a friend of mine, to examine her. They all agreed that the baby was born after nine months, for if it was born after six months and half, it would have required placing him in the incubator for a month and not just three days as was the case. My family is pushing me hard to divorce her but I do not know what to do. Is this baby really my son? My wife has no one else but me. If I leave her, she may return to the false creed again and leave Islaam. Moreover, the baby would not be raised according to the Islaamic principles. What should I do to keep the mother and the baby attached to Islaam? Kindly, give me your Fatwaa’ in this regard.

Answer: The least duration for pregnancy is six months, Allaah (Exalted be He) states: And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship. And she brings him forth with hardship, and the bearing of him, and the weaning of him is thirty months And: …and his weaning is in two years The two years equal twenty-four months. As such, there are six months left from the thirty months, and this is the minimum period for pregnancy… read more here.

Is marriage to a non-virgin woman valid?

Question 4: I have been married to my cousin for three months. I thought that she was a virgin and paid her Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) based on that. However, on the wedding night, it was a great shock to know that she was not a virgin. She told me that when she was thirteen years old, she fell down from the roof which caused her to lose her virginity. Her family who knew this fact well did not tell me the truth and deceived me. Out of fear of Allaah, I did not falsely accuse her and agreed not to disclose this fact to anyone.I had sexual intercourse with her because of her insistence. Now, I dislike this woman whom I loved before. Could you please answer the following questions?

1- Is the marriage contract invalid as her Waliy (a legally accountable person acting for a woman regarding marriage) did not tell the truth and deceived me?

2- If this marriage is invalid, what is the ruling on having intercourse with her? Is it regarded as Zinaa (premarital sexual intercourse), if so, what should I do?

3- Is it permissible for me to divorce her as I can not bear living with her or her family?

Answer: If your marriage with this woman was concluded with the permission of her Waliy (a legally accountable person acting for a woman regarding marriage), and the conditions and Arkaan (essential elements) of the marriage contract were satisfied, and there was no prohibitive impediment to the marriage, the marriage is valid. What you mentioned in the question about her not being a virgin or older than the stipulated age does not invalidate the contract. If a dispute arises between you over this, you should refer it to the courts… read more here.

Validity of marriage to a woman who turns out to be not virgin

Question 3: I married a woman from another country, whose family said she was a 17-year-old virgin who had not slept with anyone before me, but whom I later found to be a 25-year-old non-virgin. I brought her with me to Saudi Arabia and lived with her for four months, during which time I found no fault with her in anyway. Would you now please give me a Fatwaa’ (legal opinion issued by a qualified Muslim scholar) based on my question: Should I keep her with me or send her back to her country? If this would involve either a sin or goodness, please explain this to me. May Allaah protect, support, and guide you!

Answer: If your marriage with this woman was concluded with the permission of her Waliy (a legally accountable person acting for a woman regarding marriage), and the conditions and Arkaan (essential elements) of the marriage contract were satisfied, and there was no prohibitive impediment to the marriage, the marriage is valid. What you mentioned in the question about her not being a virgin or older than the stipulated age does not invalidate the contract. If a dispute arises between you over this, you should refer it to the courts… read more here.

Parents asking their son about his wife’s virginity

Question 2: The morning after the wedding, some people may ask the husband about his wife’svirginity. They may ask him: Have you found your wife to be a virgin or not?Is it lawful for the husband to respond, especially when the questioner is one of his or her parents?

Answer: There should be no questions or answers in this regard. Rather, the means to it should be blocked to save the honor of Muslims… read more here.

Wife hiding non-virginity due to an accident from the husband

Question 1: A Muslim woman had an accident in her childhood which caused her to lose her virginity. Her marriage contract has been concluded but she has not consummated marriage yet. Another woman had the same accident when she was a child and now many suitable suitors propose to her. What should both of them do? Should the married woman tell her husband before the consummation of marriage or keep it a secret? With regards to the woman who has not yet got married, should she keep it a secret so people may not think ill about her, especially that the accident happened in her childhood when she was not legally competent? Or is it considered cheating and treachery? Should she tell her suitors about the accident before concluding the contract?

Answer: There is no harm in the Sharee`ah to keep it a secret, then if the husband asks her after the consummation of marriage, she should tell him the truth… read more here.