Ruling on advance or deferred payment of Mahr

Question 4: Is it Waajib (obligatory) that a woman’s Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) be paid once it is defined, at the time of concluding the contract of marriage? Or is it sufficient to define it, then the payment may be deferred to a later time after the consummation of marriage? May Allaah reward you with the best.

Answer: It depends on the agreement between the husband and the wife or her Waliy (a legally accountable person acting for a woman regarding marriage). Whatever they agree on, whether advancing or deferring the payment of Mahr, is permissible for the matter is flexible; all praise be to Allaah Alone... read more here.

Mahr is the right of the bride

Question 3: If a person proposes to marry my daughter and gives her a Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) of about fifty thousand Riyals, shall I give it back to him and keep only twothousand of it as some people do? Shall I do this while it is my daughter’s right? If I help her in buying some of her trousseau, will that be regarded as helping my sons? Please advise us concerning what we should do with these affairs as necessity arises. Al-salaamu `alaykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh (May Allaah’s Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you)

Answer: You should not give back any part of her Mahr unless she permits you to do so if she was of legal age as it is her right. It is permissible for you to help her in some marriage affairs if necessity arises as you helped her brothers... read more here.

Permissibility of specifying a certain amount of Mahr by a tribe

Question 2: Our tribe agreed that Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) is to be twenty five thousand riyals only. If the bride’s brother or father receives more than this, the tribe takes the extra amount of money and put sit in a tribe box which is allocated for helping the Miskeen (needy) people. Is it then permissible to take this extra sum as a sort of punishing whomever violates the convention set by the tribe?

Answer: If the concerned tribe agreed on a certain Mahr for the interest of the young boys and girls amongst them, no one is allowed to violate such an agreement. This is because such violation is to threaten the general interest of the people of the town or the tribe... read more here.

Reprehensibility of exaggeration in Mahr

Question 1: Is it permissible for women’s families to exaggerate in their dowries? Is it allowed for them to eat it all up? What is the evidence?

Answer: It is reprehensible to exaggerate in women’s dowries and one should make it easy but the Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) is not prohibited for a woman to take even if it was overstated as Allaah (Exalted be He) says: …and you have given one of them a Qintaar (of gold i.e. a great amount as Mahr) Qintaar… read more here.