Ruling on advance or deferred payment of Mahr

Question 4: Is it Waajib (obligatory) that a woman’s Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) be paid once it is defined, at the time of concluding the contract of marriage? Or is it sufficient to define it, then the payment may be deferred to a later time after the consummation of marriage? May Allaah reward you with the best.

Answer: It depends on the agreement between the husband and the wife or her Waliy (a legally accountable person acting for a woman regarding marriage). Whatever they agree on, whether advancing or deferring the payment of Mahr, is permissible for the matter is flexible; all praise be to Allaah Alone... read more here.

Mahr is the right of the bride

Question 3: If a person proposes to marry my daughter and gives her a Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) of about fifty thousand Riyals, shall I give it back to him and keep only twothousand of it as some people do? Shall I do this while it is my daughter’s right? If I help her in buying some of her trousseau, will that be regarded as helping my sons? Please advise us concerning what we should do with these affairs as necessity arises. Al-salaamu `alaykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh (May Allaah’s Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you)

Answer: You should not give back any part of her Mahr unless she permits you to do so if she was of legal age as it is her right. It is permissible for you to help her in some marriage affairs if necessity arises as you helped her brothers... read more here.

Permissibility of specifying a certain amount of Mahr by a tribe

Question 2: Our tribe agreed that Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) is to be twenty five thousand riyals only. If the bride’s brother or father receives more than this, the tribe takes the extra amount of money and put sit in a tribe box which is allocated for helping the Miskeen (needy) people. Is it then permissible to take this extra sum as a sort of punishing whomever violates the convention set by the tribe?

Answer: If the concerned tribe agreed on a certain Mahr for the interest of the young boys and girls amongst them, no one is allowed to violate such an agreement. This is because such violation is to threaten the general interest of the people of the town or the tribe... read more here.

Reprehensibility of exaggeration in Mahr

Question 1: Is it permissible for women’s families to exaggerate in their dowries? Is it allowed for them to eat it all up? What is the evidence?

Answer: It is reprehensible to exaggerate in women’s dowries and one should make it easy but the Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) is not prohibited for a woman to take even if it was overstated as Allaah (Exalted be He) says: …and you have given one of them a Qintaar (of gold i.e. a great amount as Mahr) Qintaar… read more here.

Putting water on the grave of the first wife on the wedding night with the second is a Bidd‘ah

Question 9: In our village, when a wife dies and her husband marries a new one, they go to her grave on the wedding day and pour water on her grave, what is the ruling on that? 

Answer: There is no ground for that and it is Bidd`ah (innovation in religion)... read more here.

Females are permitted to beat the Duff during wedding

Question 8: What is the Duff (a tambourine-like instrument without bells)? Is it permissible for women to use Duff and sing on any occasion other than weddings? What is the drum and is it permissible to use it in weddings or other occasions?

Answer: Scholars mentioned that Duff is a tambourine that has two faces; one face covered and the second face is open. It is used by women in weddings. This is permissible in weddings as it is a way of announcing wedding. Women may sing usual songs with the Duff by which they praise the bride, bridegroom and their families or the like... read more here.

Is dancing and free intermixing of men and women, whether Mahrams or non-Mahrams, permissible in weddings?

Question 7: Is free intermixing (of men and women) in weddings permissible? What is the ruling on men’s dancing with a Mahram (spouse or permanently unmarriageable relative) and non-Mahram (not a spouse or an unmarriageable relative) women? Moreover, if men are alone, will there be any problem?

Answer: It is permissible in marriage to declare and announce it by using Duff (a tambourine-like instrument without bells) from the part of women. But free intermixing is not permissible if they are non-Mahrams. This is a Munkar (that which is unacceptable or disapproved of by Islaamic law and Muslims of sound intellect) that should be removed... read more here.

What is the ruling on listening to music?

Question 6: What is the ruling on listening to music?

Answer: Music and musical instruments are all evil, but they are things that Satan makes appear attractive and enjoyable, and he calls people to them so as to distract them from the truth by means of falsehood... read more here.

What is the ruling on listening to songs?

Question 5: What is the ruling on listening to songs?

Answer: Listening to songs is undoubtedly Haraam (prohibited), as it might lead to other sins and temptations such as committing the unlawful act of Zinaa (sexual intercourse outside marriage), sodomy, or drinking Khamr (intoxicant), gambling, and befriending bad people... read more here.

Evidence from the Qur’aan and Sunnah prohibiting and warning against singing and musical instruments

I have looked into the report published by Al-Ra’id Magazine (67th and 68th issues) by Aboo Turaab Al-Zhaahiree entitled “The Book and Sunnah did not forbid singing and using and listening to musical instruments.” I considered carefully the Hadeeth and reports that he mentioned and relied upon in permitting singing and musical instruments in accordance with his Imaam Aboo Muhammad ibn Hazm Al-Zhaahiree. I was astonished at his extreme daring following his Imaam Aboo Muhammad to claim that all the Hadeeths reported prohibiting singing and musical instruments are weak... read more here.

Reminding of Allaah and advising people in wedding occasions

Question 3: Is it allowable to utilize wedding ceremonies to advise people in them for many people are present and a great deal of those people in particular do not listen to religious information except rarely? May Allaah reward you with the best.

Answer: In fact, it is strongly recommend to remind people in weddings of what is obligatory on them concerning Allaah’s Right, obedience to Him, co-operation in righteousness and piety and advising one another to observe right and avoid the forbidden matters. Also, people should be encouraged to marry and reduce the costs of marriage so that marriage increases and chastity spreads among Muslims... read more here.

Celebrating wedding parties in hotels and halls is extravagance

Question2: Are the parties held in hotels that cost a lot of money considered a form of extravagance? If so, please advise us about this.

Answer: Parties that are held in hotels include many mistakes. First, they usually involve unnecessary extravagance. Second, they lead to overbearingness in setting banquets, in addition to the attendance of unnecessary people. Third, this leads to outrageous free intermixing (of men and women), whether the hotel employees or others... read more here.

Village’s tradition of charging a sum of money if the husband is not an inhabitant is condemned

Question 1: Your Eminence Shaykh `Abdul-`Azeez ibn `Abdullaah ibn Baaz (may Allaah protect him)
Al-Salaamu `alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh (May Allaah’s Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!)

We have an old tradition in some villages in the Southern Region. Anyone who marries his daughter or any one of his relatives to a man who is not from his village is obliged to pay two thousand Riyals which is called Maksar to his villagers to attend the Waleemah (wedding dinner) served in the husband’s village. If he refuses to pay the money, none of the villagers, males and females, goes with him or accepts his invitation to Waleemah. Anyone who goes with him will be fined and regarded as disobedient to the villagers.

It should be noted that this sum of money may be taken from the wife’s Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) or from the property of the bride’s father. He pays it unwillingly only for the villagers to accompany him to the groom’s village. Please advise! May Allaah reward you with the best!

Answer: Wa `alaykum al-salaamu wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh (May Allaah’s Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you too). To proceed:

This tradition is Munkar (that which is unacceptable or disapproved of by Islaamic law and Muslims of sound intellect) and unjust… read more here.

Your husband’s sons from earlier or later marriages are Mahrams to you

Question 16: A woman got married to a man who had sons from another wife. He divorced her and married another wife who begot him a son.He asked her to raise this son. She did, but did not breastfeed him. Are all the husband’s sons regarded her Mahrams (permanently unmarriageable relative)?

Answer: All your husband’s sons from earlier or later marriage are regarded as Mahrams. You, therefore, do not have to wear Hijaab before them as Allaah (Glorified and Exalted be He) says in Soorah Al-Noor… read more here.

Wearing Hijaab in front of son-in-law

Question 15: I have eight daughters. Four of them got married. I observe Hijaab (veil) before two of my sons-in-law and do not observe it before the others. Please advise whether it is permissible for me not to wear Hijaab before them.

Answer: Your sons-in-law are Mahrams (permanently unmarriageable relatives) for you. Therefore, you are permitted to uncover your face, hands and feet before them. But it is not an obligation. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Take advantage of the concessions which Allaah has given to you. He (peace be upon him) also said… read more here.

A son-in-law is a Mahram

Question 14: There is a woman who has a married daughter. This woman veils herself before the husband of her daughter; she does not eat with him; and she does not shake hands with him even on occasions. What is the ruling on this? 

Answer: A son-in-law is a Mahram (permanently unmarriageable relative) for his mother-in-law. Allaah (Glorified be He) says about unmarriageable relatives from among women: …your wives’ mothers This matter is unanimously agreed upon among scholars… read more here.

Being raised with someone does not make him a Mahram

Question 13: From `Abd-Al-`Azeez ibn `Abd-Allaah ibn Baaz to the honorable brother the questioner, may Allaah keep you safe.

Al-Salaamu `alaykum wa rahmatullaah wa barakaatuh (May Allaah’s Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!) To proceed:

With reference to your asking for Fatwaa’ registered in the Departments of Scholarly Research and Iftaa’ with No. (513), dated 5/2/1407 A.H., in which you asked a few questions,

I would like to inform you that you have to prevent your wife from attending parties which entail free intermixing of women with non-Mahram men (not a spouse or a permanently unmarriageable relative), even if her father does not agree to preventing her from that as there is no obedience to a creature in disobeying the Creator. Hence, it is incumbent upon you to inform the concerned body; the Committee for the Propagation of Virtue and the Prevention of Vice to prevent the free intermixing of men and women in parties… read more here.

Invalidity of marriage to a fifth wife or more

Question 12: If a person is married to four wives and marries a fifth wife later and she gives birth to one baby, will the baby belong to this father? 

Answer: There is no doubt that marriage to a fifth wife is Baatil (null and void) as agreed upon unanimously by scholars (may Allaah be merciful with them). Al-Haafid Ibn Katheer (may Allaah be merciful to him) mentioned in his Tafseer (explanation of the meanings of the Qur’aan) that scholars, except Shiites, unanimously agreed that it is prohibited to marry a fifth wife… read more here.

Ruling on marrying a divorcee and her ex-husband’s daughter at the same time

Question 11: Is it permissible for a man to marry a divorcee and her stepdaughter at the same time? What is Your Eminence’s opinion on the juristic rule that states, “It is Haraam (prohibited) to combine in marriage two women at the same time such that if one of them (these two women) had been a man, it would not have been permissible for him to marry the other woman”?

Answer: In the chapter on women unlawful for marriage, scholars discussed this matter and stated that it is permissible for a man to marry a widow or a divorcee and her stepdaughter at the same time. They supported their view with the fact that `Abdullaah ibn Ja`far ibn ‘Aboo Taalib (may Allaah be pleased with them both) married one of the widows of his paternal uncle `Alee (may Allaah be pleased with him) and his daughter from another wife… read more here.

The stepson of a brother is not a Mahram to his sisters

Question 10: My brother got married to a woman who had a son from a previous marriage. My brother brought up this stepson, who was an orphan, since the latter was only two years old. He is twenty five years old now. Do I have to wear Hijaab (veil) in front of him bearing in mind that my brother took charge of him and raised him in his orphanage?

Answer: The concerned boy is not your brother’s son unless your brother’s wife breastfed him after being married to your brother or that your father’s wife did so. In such a case, the boy referred to in the question is considered your foster brother… read more here.

A stepmother is not a Mahram to her stepdaughter’s husband

Question 9: My father married a second woman and begot a son from her, can my husband be her Mahram (permanently unmarriageable relative) and see her without Hijaab (veil)? It is worth mentioning that my father is my husband’s maternal uncle and so she is the wife of my husband’s maternal uncle. Give us your Fatwaa’ (legal opinion issued by a qualified Muslim scholar) in this regard, may Allaah reward you with the best. 

Answer: The stepmother is not a Mahram for the husband of the stepdaughter. The Mahram relationship exists between the wife’s mother and the husband of her own daughter. Pointing out the female Mahrams, Allaah (Glorified and Exalted be He) says: …your wives’ mothers The stepmother is not a mother of the husband’s daughter of a previous wife… read more here.

Is the ex-husband a Mahram to the daughter of his divorced wife?

Question 8: I got married to a woman and then divorced her. This woman got married to another man and had a daughter. Am I a Mahram (permanently unmarriageable relative) for this daughter? It is worth mentioning that I am no longer a Mahram for her mother since I have divorced her. Does it make any difference if it was the first, second or third divorce? If I am a Mahram for her, may you provide me with conclusive evidence on that? May Allaah reward you with the best.

Answer: If you consummated your marriage with a woman, the daughters of this woman from another man would be considered your stepdaughters. In this case, they are Mahrams for you. Allaah (Glorified and Exalted be He) says when identifying Mahrams from among women in Soorah Al-Nisaa’… read more here.

The first husband of the mother is a Mahram to her daughters from her second husband

Question 7: The questioner is from Riyadh. He says in his inquiry:A man got married to a woman and had a son. Then, this woman got married to another man and had two daughters. Are the two daughters Mahrams (permanently unmarriageable relatives) to the ex-husband of their mother who is the father of their maternal half-brother? Please answer my question. May Allaah reward you with the best!

Answer: If a man got married to a woman, consummated the marriage, then divorced her and she got married to another man, her daughters from the second husband are Mahrams for the ex-husband of their mother. Allaah (Glorified be He) says in pointing out the prohibitions in marriage in Soorah An-Nisaa’… read more here.

Impermissibility of marrying the daughter of a wife divorced after consummation of marriage

Question 6: Please advise us about a person who married the daughter of his divorcee, is this permissible?

Answer: It is not permissible for a man to marry the daughter of his divorced wife if he consummated his marriage with the mother, since she is considered his stepdaughter. Allaah prohibits men from marrying their stepdaughters. Allaah (Exalted be He) says when showing unmarriageable persons from among women… read more here.

Ruling on a man who married the daughter of the woman who breastfed him while she was married to a man before the father of his wife

Question 5: From `Abd-al-`Azeez ibn `Abd-Allaah ibn Baaz, to the honorable brother the inquirer, may Allaah guide him to every goodness. Aameen.

Al-salaamu `alaykum wa rahmatullaah wa baraakatuh (May Allaah’s Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!) To proceed:

Our beloved brother! We have received your message dated 19/12/1388 A.H. May Allaah guide you to His Straight Path. You inquire about the ruling on a man who married a woman but he was breastfed by her mother while the latter was married to a man other than the father of the former. Your inquiry about the ruling on such an issue is known to us.

Answer: This marriage is null and void since the man referred to in the question is a brother to the woman he got married to since he had been breastfed from her mother. This prohibition is quite evident in the Qur’aan, Sunnah and Ijmaa` (consensus) of Muslim scholars provided that her mother had breastfed him five times while he was in the first two years… read more here.

Breastfeeding relationships are equal to blood relationships in rendering marriage unlawful

Question 4: A brother from Tunisia inquires: I am a 24 year-old man. When I wanted to propose to my paternal cousin, I was surprised by everybody to know that I am her paternal uncle by breastfeeding; as my elder sister was breastfed with my uncle -the girl’s father- and he breastfed with her as well, i.e., from my mother. Is it Shar`ee (Islaamically legal) permissible for me to marry her? I hope that you wouldpromptly answer me, for I am very confused about that. May Allaah reward you with the best.

Answer: If it is proven that her father breastfed from your mother five times or more during the first two years of birth, you are to be considered as a brother to him through breastfeeding, and a paternal uncle to his daughter… read more here.

Ruling on marrying the daughter of one’s wife’s brother through breastfeeding

Question 3: A man wants to marry his wife’s foster niece. What is the ruling on this?

Answer: It is impermissible for him to do so unless he divorces his wife and she finishes her `Iddah (woman’s prescribed waiting period after divorce or widowhood), because it is impermissible to marry a woman and her paternal or maternal aunt at the same time… read more here.

Marrying a woman and her paternal or maternal aunt at the same time

Question 2: One of the readers from Makkah asks: Is it permissible for a person to marry his wife’s niece?

Answer: It is not permissible for one to marry his wife’s niece, whether on the maternal or paternal side, if he is still married to her aunt. The Prophet (peace be upon him) has prohibited marrying a woman and her maternal or paternal aunt at the same time… read more here.

Can a man divorce his wife to marry her sister while his divorcee is still in her ‘Iddah ?

Question 1: If a person divorces his wife and she is still in her `Iddah (woman’s prescribed waiting period after divorce or widowhood), is it permissible for him to marry her sister? If his wife dies, is it permissible to marry her sister shortly after? May Allaah benefit us and you!

Answer: If a person divorces his wife, it is not permissible for him to marry her sister or maternal or paternal aunt unless the `Iddah is over if the divorce is revocable as agreed by all Muslim scholars. If the divorce is revocable, then she is still his wife as long as the `Iddah is not over. But if it is irrevocable divorce, such as being the third divorce or Kul` (divorce initiated by a wife for a consideration), this is a controversial matter among scholars… read more here.