Question 10: Please be advised that I am a young man about to graduate. I proposed to a girl six months ago, and her father agreed to our marriage. I agreed with them to pay her 100,000 Rupees as Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom). Our customs are that the mentioned sum of money is written in the contract, but only half of it is paid in the form of jewels and clothes. Due to myfinancial situation, I do not have this sum of money, so I cannot pay it. I have read in some books that if a man marries while owing part of the Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom), while he does not intend to pay it, he will be resurrected on the Day of Judgment as an adulterer. Please advise concerning the following:
First: Is this Hadeeth Saheeh (authentic)?
Second: If it is Saheeh, what should I do? Should I break the engagement or continue? Please note, that the marriage has not yet taken place.
Third: Given the situation, does the previously-mentioned Hadeeth apply to my case? Please advise. May Allaah guide you.
Answer: First, it was mentioned by Al-Mundhiree in his book entitled “Al-Targheeb wa al-Tarheeb”, on the authority of Suhayb Al-Khayr (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he said, “The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said... read more here.