Question 41: My father is sixty five years old and my mother is of the same age. He abuses her verbally, and she leaves the house without his permission. As her children have grown up and gotten married, she has been living with them for five years now. She asks for Talaaq (divorce initiated by a husband), but my father refuses to divorce her, and he does not sustain her. What are the duties on both of them? Bear in mind that both of them are well-off. What is your advice for them? I am their eldest son, and I always advise them to forgive each other. May Allaah guide you to the benefit of Muslims.
Answer: Married couples should live together in kindness and treat each other well. It is not permissible for a husband to abuse his wife verbally, and it is not permissible for her to leave the house without his permission. Each one of them should fear Allaah (Glorified and Exalted be He) as He should be feared and observe His Boundaries... read more here.