Question 32: I wish to know about the following:
1- My husband follows the Qur’aan and the Sunnah (whatever is reported from the Prophet) and urges me and others to adhere to the Sunnah, but I do not listen to him or follow him.
2- What is the ruling on going out in his absence and without his permission to visit my family and relatives?
3- Were I to obey what my husband says, women would laugh at me and accuse me of fearing him.
Answer: Firstly, if your husband is as you have described, it is obligatory upon whoever hears him to respond to him as long as what he preaches is in accordance with the Book of Allaah (Exalted be He) and Sunnah of His Messenger (peace be upon him). You should be the first to answer his call, obey him with regard to Ma`roof (that which is judged as good, beneficial, or fitting by Islaamic law and Muslims of sound intellect) and thank Allaah for endowing you with such a husband who encourages you to do good. May Allaah guide you to what pleases Him... read more here.