Question 19: In 1376 A.H., I married a righteous woman and had eleven sons and a daughter. Two of my children passed away, I ask Allah to reward us in the Hereafter, and the others are still alive, may Allaah keep us all safe and sound. After completing their studies, five of them got married and are now living with their spouses in their houses. In 1405, my wife suffered from a mental and physical disease which made her abstain from having sexual relations with me. I consulted many doctors seeking her recovery from Allaah (Glorified be He) and was satisfied with Allah’s Decree. I did not think of getting married again for two reasons.
First, I hoped she would recover.
Second, to be able to look after my children during their mother’s illness. In 1415, after my children got married and the condition of their mother worsened, my children asked me to marry. I married another righteous woman for I wanted to get married and all my children were grown ups as the youngest is 18 years old. We live in a separate house and we have a daughter. I support both houses with regard to lodging, food, clothes, education, and all the necessary things. I also guide them to the good of their religion and worldly life. After I got married, my first wife’s health improved. Is there any blame on me because I am staying with my second wife, even though my first wife did not object? Please advise, may Allaah reward you with the best.
Answer: You should do justice in division between your two wives. It is not permissible for you to do otherwise without the first wife’s permission... read more here.