Question 22: Certain occasions; such as marriage and circumcision, are sometimes held in our town. Celebrating these occasions, the men gather in a separate place where they beat the drums, dance and amuse themselves. It is noteworthy that no instrument is used but the drums, there is no mixing between men and women and the obligatory Salaah (Prayer) is performed in their due time. What is the ruling on these practices? Please answer us, may Allaah reward you with the best.
Answer: It is impermissible for men to beat the drums on occasions, whether circumcision or others, as this entails prohibited amusement. Rather, it is proven in the Sunnah that women are recommended to beat the duff to announce the marriage.This is granted to women only when there are no men present... read more here.