Question 24: What is the ruling on women attending weddings and birthday parties? Although they are Bidd`ah (innovation in religion) and it is known that every Bidd`ah is a deviation from what is right. Female singers perform at these parties. Is it considered Haraam (prohibited) for women to attend such parties in appreciation of the bride’s family and not to listen to the singer?
Answer: It is permissible for women to attend these parties if they are free from evil such as men mixing with women and obscene singing. She should attend these parties to celebrate with them if she is able to change the evil, for attending in this case becomes necessary. On the other hand, it is prohibited for her to attend such parties if she cannot change the evil due to the general meaning of Allaah’s Saying... read more here.