Question 3: If a person proposes to marry my daughter and gives her a Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom) of about fifty thousand Riyals, shall I give it back to him and keep only twothousand of it as some people do? Shall I do this while it is my daughter’s right? If I help her in buying some of her trousseau, will that be regarded as helping my sons? Please advise us concerning what we should do with these affairs as necessity arises. Al-salaamu `alaykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh (May Allaah’s Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you)
Answer: You should not give back any part of her Mahr unless she permits you to do so if she was of legal age as it is her right. It is permissible for you to help her in some marriage affairs if necessity arises as you helped her brothers... read more here.